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Honor, integrity, faithfulness... are these out-dated ideals? "No!", says the true gentleman.
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Honor, integrity, faithfulness... are these out-dated ideals? "No!", says the true gentleman.
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Mr.Swanson 11 years, 8 months ago
Here, here. My wife and I got married at 19 and will celebrate four years this August. We are home owners and parents and still madly in love. I can echo the statements of the author's lifestyle as well and how that affected our relationship and values.
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Razorback 11 years, 8 months ago
My wife and I were high school sweethearts and married in our early 20s. We just celebrated 24 years of marriage July 16. Has it been easy? No. But it's not supposed to be.
I disagree with both authors. The author of the first article simply does not want to grow up and uses lame excuses to not get married early. The author of the second article (in the link above) bases everything purely on a spiritual belief. Neither is right.
Nobody determines who or how you love but you. Not your friends, not your family, not the history of your grandparents and not your faith. You either love somebody unconditionally or you do not. You either sacrifice all for that love or you do not. There is no middle ground
As the Beatles once said, "In the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make."
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tinman97030 11 years, 8 months ago
got married to her when we were 22, that was nearly 36 years ago. Those ideals are what helped us to make it this far.
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The.Minted.Dad 11 years, 8 months ago
Got some old and experienced Gentleman on here. I've only got a mere 5 years compared to some of you old timers. Married at age 22. And I look forward to the next 50. I'll figure it out from there.
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Robochess 11 years, 8 months ago
I've been married 2x, my first marriage ending was my fault. I would like to blame my parents, or my ex wife, but the reality is that I was too selfish. My marriage now is mostly very good, we have had some very hard times, but we continue to grow with each other and to grow in our love for each other. We have been married for 16 years now, raised my 2 kids fom my first marriage as well as our kids. We hope to instill in our children that the choices we make as people affect everything, from the people we love to the jobs we have, but that love is also a choice, not just a feeling. Sometimes you have to choose to continue loving somebody even if they don't turn the lights off, or put their dirty clothes in the laundry room.
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Moogeez 11 years, 8 months ago
I agree wholeheartedly with this. While it takes a certain level of maturity to realize the true seriousness of marriage in that, it is a pact, where you swear to take care of your soulmate through the best of times and even the worst hell you can imagine. I am 21 years old and have been with my girlfriend for 4 years. We met my senior year of high school and have been inseparable since. She is my soulmate, best friend, and the person I confide in. I know she is the one because through the extremely hard times (my father going through a rough battle with cancer) she was never further than a phone call away for me. She is truly my angel. I have been considering marriage very strongly recently. The only thing stopping me currently is that I am still in college(so is she) and I would like to get myself financially secure and able to support her first. I recently finished an internship and have landed my first job which looks to be a promising career. It is true that marriage under 25 is scoffed at. Our parents (who have come around more recently) had always looked at it as though we are too young and unprepared for what marriage really is. I hope that they soon realize that we are in this for the long haul (4 years seems like it should be an indicator). My parents love my girlfriend and her parents love me, so this hesitance is solely based on the idea of marriage under 25. Sorry about the novel I just wrote, but this is a topic that is very poignant to me currently haha.
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